Working in a an Obstetrics and Gynaecology ICU, I have witnessed a lot of cases of patients admitted to our unit with Uterine perforation – often the result of abortion procedures sadly performed by untrained personnel.
Many of them end up undergoing major surgeries to remove the uterus and are with drains. Some even need colostomy bags because part of the intestine was injured. Tragically, some succumbed to sepsis or excessive bleeding. It’s truly heartbreaking!
At first, I felt angry, and in my mind, I thought, “Serves you right for killing your unborn baby. You could have kept it.”
But then, I began to question myself.
“Serves you right? Who am I saying this to? Why am I becoming so judgmental, as if I haven’t done anything wrong? Don’t I know it’s only God’s role to judge? But at least I’ve never undergone an abortion. Gosh, I can’t even think about it. And these people have gone through the process – some even a ninth time!”
I tried to justify myself.
Then, I was reminded of God’s unconditional love.
I asked myself, “Will God love me more than these people? Or will He love them the same as much as He loves me?”
I found my answer.
There is no justification anymore.
The truth is, God’s love is unconditional, and He loves them just as much as He loves me!
This completely changed my mindset.
Who am I to judge anyone, anyway?
The very fact that they are still alive shows that God has given them a second chance – or maybe a a third or fourth chance – to live their lives the way He wants them to!
From that day, the way I dealt with them changed completely. I no longer became judgmental. Instead, I prayed for them – that they might live a life worth living and not be held back by their past mistakes!
For some, I sincerely prayed that God would give them another chance to make things right.
It’s sad to see our society treat people like those drug addicts, prostitutes, etc. as criminals and laughed at them. They give them labels and call them “unfit,” yet, these individuals become a “heated discussion topic” – as if it’s daily sustenance of society!
To be honest, I get headaches whenever I hear people gossiping about someone’s life!
People around me often ask, “Why are you so quiet?”
I used to smile as I reply, “Because I have nothing to say.”
The truth is, no one is perfect and I have my own weaknesses and dark sides. Everybody does! If those dark sides were visible to everyone, you won’t be left alone either! Maybe yours or mine is worse or darker than those we label as “unfit.” Who knows?
The thing is, we are really good at hiding who we truly are! At least, we seem to have decent etiquette. Our colors change so naturally depending on the situation!
And we called this being smart and “adjustable”?
We all need the grace of God in our lives!
If I genuinely care about you, I should talk to you with love, help you out if I can, or pray that your situation improves – rather than talking behind your back!
Life has taught me the importance of silence. If I have nothing good to say about you, I would rather remain silent. And so, I prefer silence! So should you!